First World Problems that question what we really want

For most of the average individuals that I know, the biggest challenge faced is not that of absence, but rather of availability of more than one option. I always prefer to classify this challenge as a `first world problem`! A problem whose best example is that of this individual, stressed about which of his/her devices (mobile phone, tablet, and laptop) he/she should use to access their face book. It becomes a big mental problem that they start `googling` the best alternative – don’t ask me which device they use for googling! This so-called first world problem extends beyond this simple device decision quagmire. It goes on to affect their other areas of life, such as deciding which food to eat, which job to take on, and so on goes the list. There are several individuals in third world countries too experiencing `first world problems`, and you too could have faced this plentiful choice conundrum. If you have gone to a place where choice is in plenty and your financial resource has no constraints, you may end up being confused in your choice making, especially when everything appeals to the eye. One may argue that, if money isn’t a problem, then this individual should get whatever they desire. Well, that may apply for a few items, but even then, if you cannot use them all at the same time, a choice problem shall still arise, even when you can afford them!

I think most average men/women tend to get knocked out at this stage, especially if it comes to life goals. One soon realizes that they can do a lot more; they then get caught in the mental cycle of thinking that all their desires can be satisfied. In the process, they start attempting to achieve them all, and to even make it more interesting, they try them all simultaneously. This is where it all goes wrong; without paying utmost attention to a particular goal and concentrating your energies at achieving that one most desired goal, you lose focus and them all. The hunting instincts of the carnivores have at least taught us more than just running away once we see them; they have taught us how to pick our single prey and go after it even when the entire herd looks appetizing! If you have watched any documentary or one of those animal channels on your preferred device, you should have benefited more than watching those helpless gazelles being hunted by the jungle kings and princes. Their choice to move in numbers has helped (in confusing and scaring off the hunter), but has also caused parallel improvisation for the hunter. The lion for example knows that he cannot go after the entire herd; he thus has to select his victim before making any strides, lest he catches none! Such should be the life of any focused man/woman when it comes to achieving our desires/goals. At one point one wants to get the best job; they want to do that trending academic course; to have that perfect family; to successfully run that business of their dreams, or to work on something else. In such a case, if one attempts to achieve all these at once, they are bound to achieve none. Probably as they try to get hold of a second one, the first shall start slipping away. This is especially true if all are attempted at the same time. If we borrow the hunting instincts of the jungle kings, we would only have to modify it a little bit to fit our best interests. We would know that we can only go after two options, only if they don’t conflict with each other. Lining them up in order of most priority to least priority, we would also know which one to start with. 

The other option of making it easy for ourselves is to simply choose a single item and quickly get it out-of-the-way. Once it is isolated, we naturally start appreciating its beauty and splendor without comparing it to others. The trouble is always that, once still in the vicinity of others, it is outshined or its brilliance is not fully observed. It happens always, you get into a cloth store and all you see are nice items and you get spoilt of choice. Everything you try on looks great and probably you feel like taking them all with you, but you also know this is not the logical thing to do. In this case you just have to make up your mind, select one of your favourite items and stop looking out for others. Once at home, and as you try it on – again, you realize that it shines brighter than the rest – at least brighter than those old ones at home!

Such is the same with life goals, we are faced with plenty and making an ultimate decision and to strictly follow one becomes a really tough choice. We thus have to narrow down our options to something that we truly desire – something to die for! Then once we are content with our choice, we then devise ways to keep focused to that, to love it every day, and to work towards making it our best. Being greedy (wanting to get it all) hasn’t put anyone at the top, it`s only and only our selfless realization that we can’t have it all that drives us to seek something truly definite. Many a times, most of the things we crave for lie on the same paths to our bigger goal, they may come after or before the bigger goal. They shouldn’t in any way deter us from reaching to what we set out to achieve in the first place. An individual, whose main goal is to become rich, soon realizes that after the wealth has come, they can afford to satisfy their other previous ambitions to which absence of money was an obstacle. The earlier one knows what they are exactly after in life, the easier it is to get it! It is no use wasting so much time on the so many available options; remember this the next time you are faced with one of such first world problems.

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